Nine Lives has moved away from Substack. At its new home, you will find:
the full archives, including this post, Memory Is a Double-Edged Sword;
my explanation for the move (and the other move, sigh);
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Nine Lives has moved away from Substack. At its new home, you will find:
the full archives, including this post, Memory Is a Double-Edged Sword;
my explanation for the move (and the other move, sigh);
new subscription options.
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There's so little common wisdom about menopause and peri-menopause given the number of people who go through it. There's also a lack of research. This needs to be much better understood.
Do the memory issues affect novel writing? I found that it took a lot of working memory to keep the world and situation alive in my brain with enough detail and vividness to be able to weave it forward in a way that came from and respected what I'd already done.
Wonderful, as ALWAYS. I feel so incredibly fortunate to have stumbled across Pool some 20-odd years ago and was welcomed into a truly inclusive community where people spoke with care and respect to each other. Even though I was far more right-leaning then (but strongly moderately right), but no one ever shamed me or talked down to me. (For your memory's sake, I believe my screenname back then was KatGirlEsq.) I'd like to think that some of those folks, yourself included, helped gently nudge me significantly more to the left. <3
And yes, please, please talk about menopause. I'm perimenopausal and it isn't something women usually talk about. I've ventured boldly into many conversations with my girlfriends and found that they were always willing and ready to talk about it when asked.
As for your memory, while I can sympathize with losing a sense a who you used to be, I am sure I speak for everyone when we say we love the person you have become and will continue to enjoy our journey with you.